How do you commit to a relationship where there is no mutual sexual attraction to one another? I understand that there is more to a relationship than just sex, but sex is a big part of it. There has to be some sort of chemistry, a feeling of desire or arousal that connects you to that other person. You can be attracted to the person based on the way the person looks, sounds, smells, or a combination of all. Otherwise, it’s just friendship.
I have met a few couples where there was no sexual attraction to their partners. It was a little awkward and uncomfortable. They talk about each other as if it is a chore that has to get crossed off the list. It’s like they are just there for one another because they have no one else to be with. How do you keep the romance alive? You don’t have to have fancy, romantic candlelit dinners and roses splayed out on the bed. Sometimes, you just want to come home to the significant other and maul them or find the nearest bathroom and fuck each other’s brains out. The feeling of wanting and being wanted helps the relationship grow as well.
I don’t understand the concept of settling. Many people are self-conscious and are uncomfortable in their own skin. But that can change. You can change your eating habits, start to exercise, and learn to communicate with people outside of the professional environment. If you exude confidence, people will treat you differently as opposed to the shy and self-conscious person that stands alone in a corner of a bar or some social gathering event while his or her friends are having fun. If you are that person, people will notice you and will label you as the weird one in the corner. There will be pity and more likely than not, some form of mockery.
Now, eventually you may find an individual that can satisfy you in most areas. Accept you for the way you look, you intellectual level or lack thereof, but the relationship can only go so far if you are not attracted to one another. Nobody wants to hear “I like you but I really want to bone that other guy or chick. I’ll be back in a few.”
Do something about it. Is there anything that you are will to try to spice up your sex life or a place that you would want to christen? What kind of fetishes do you have? (NOTE: IF IT’S ANYTHING FUCKED UP THAT INVOLVES HURTING PEOPLE WITHOUT CONSENT OR ANYTHING THAT YOU CAN BE ARRESTED FOR, SEE A THERAPIST. I DO NOT CONDONE RAPE, MOLESTATION, BEASTIALITY, OR ANYTHING THAT INVOLVES CHILDREN!). Talk to the person you are with. You never know what type of new things they are willing to try. And if they are the old fashioned missionary position only prude, well, he or she may not be for you.
Enjoy your next fuck everyone!